Since my return to the States, dozens of people have said to me, “I wish I could do what you did.”
I usually tell them: “You can. Why don’t you?”
The answer is always the same. “I can’t leave my job” or “I don’t have the money” or “I have too many responsibilities.”
The truth is, you can skirt around nearly all of these obstacles if you really want to see the world.
Sometimes we get so sucked into the rat race that we forget who’s making decisions in our lives: we are. We take on all those responsibilities, and we can shed them if we want to.
I know what you’re thinking. “It’s not so easy. I have a mortgage payment!”
Of course it’s not easy. Dropping everything to travel requires a change of mindset, and a few sacrifices.
You’ve gotta think outside the box. Do you really need that apartment or house? You think you do, but you probably don’t. This is one of the easiest excuses to fix. Give it up or sell it, and get a new one when you come back. Maybe after you see how other people live, you’ll have a different idea of what you want anyhow.
What about your job? A year ago, I would have suggested you leave it and simply find another when you get back. With this tanking economy, it’s not that easy. But you can still make that work as long as you create a safety net for yourself, either savings to live off upon your return or a free place to stay while you look for a job. (After 10 years on my own, I moved in with my parents after my trip so I could afford to write a book and find a new job. It wasn’t ideal, but that was my sacrifice.)
Now, money. This is a tricky one. You DO need money to travel, and you need savings to keep you afloat when you get back. But it’s not impossible to save that money. Move into a cheaper apartment for a year. Avoid your monthly shopping spree. Figure out what expenditures you can cut out, and stick to it. What’s your priority: that new plush armchair, or seeing the sunset in Bolivia? It will be worth it when you’re finally in a country halfway across the world.
The only common excuse that really sticks? Kids. Once your children are in school, it’s difficult to pick up and leave for six months. But plenty of travelers bring younger children on the road with them and choose kid-friendly destinations.
Purging everything society says you need — a huge house, too many belongings, your rat-race mindset — to pursue something you really want may actually be freeing. It was for me.
So GO! Figure out how to make it work, because there is a way. Go! You won’t regret it.
If you’re still not convinced, check out my list of logistical and inspiring resources.
UPDATE: Because travel advice is the best kind, ideas from Madator about how to tell your family you’re leaving to travel.
And, from Brave New Traveler, 12 personal travel Web sites that will make you want to quit your day job.
March 20, 2009 at 6:43 pm
This blog’s great!! Thanks :).
March 23, 2009 at 8:31 am
Lexi…I am not one of those who wishes I had the guts to drop everything and travel, but if I were I think that your advice is solid. And the resources are great for serious would-be travelers. Your sacrifice to live at home was Mom & Dad’s to let you. Nice it works for everyone! I’m very much looking forward to the book. Love you….Aunt Jeannie
March 23, 2009 at 10:30 am
Thanks, Aunt Jeannie! You’re right about M&D’s sacrifice… But it’s been great getting to spend time with them. 🙂
March 23, 2009 at 12:04 pm
You are right, Lexi. Making a choice to travel is as simple as it is complicated. Everyone in my small(-minded) town thought I was crazy when I postponed college for a year in Brazil. Though it wasn’t easy, it was the best choice I could have made at the time. That said, I am now one of those people with too many responsibilities – a.k.a. excuses – to do it again. For now, Turkey for 12 days will have to do.
March 24, 2009 at 11:07 pm
hey- randomly stumbled upon your blog and was enjoying reading about your adventures in madagascar, as i was just there, then found a post where you mention colby (i just graduated last spring) and one where you mention a peace corps couple in ‘gascar (who i met when i was there). small world, eh?
May 3, 2009 at 11:55 pm
Hi, good post. I have been pondering this issue,so thanks for posting. I’ll definitely be coming back to your posts.
July 25, 2009 at 7:35 pm
You are so right about the mindset. And it can apply just as heavily to smaller journeys, such as interstate moves.
I remember when I was moving from Seaside, Oregon to Taos, New Mexico. People I knew or worked with admired me for my “courage.” They all said they could never think about just up and moving so far away. But after one year there, I couldn’t take the rain anymore–and it was going to be A LOT easier than my previous move (from Australia to the USA).
I wedged everything I owned into my Escort and drove to Taos. I had one friend in Santa Fe, but that was it as far as contacts.
During my trip, my sister in California hooked me up with a friend of hers from Taos. Being a nice guy who does favors for his friends, Brian took me on a date the same night I arrived in New Mexico . . . and we just celebrated our 11th anniversary this month.
Sure, I was nervous when I quit my job and moved abruptly. But life works out. If you move to do something you really want to do, providence puts opportunities in your path.
I think anyone who has ever wanted to travel should read this blog post of yours. It’s a classic. Is this going to be in the book? If not, it should be!
July 26, 2009 at 7:39 am
What a great story! I think YOU should write a book!
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May 25, 2010 at 7:00 am
Hello there! Love this blog, it pretty much answers a the post I have written on wishing I could see the world!
http://blogicalcomment.wordpress.com/2010/03/16/the-wishful-traveller-2/
Thank you very much, I have found it inspirational and has definitely fired me up!